Dr. Jan’s LifeWise Words of Wisdom
The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.
We crave connection, yet fear vulnerability - it's the ultimate relationship paradox. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into this common dilemma, offering professional insights on why we struggle and how to overcome it. Discover the 'universal law of relationships' and learn practical strategies to balance emotional openness with personal strength. Whether you're dealing with family estrangement or seeking deeper connections, this guide provides a fresh perspective on building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
My Father, Money and Me
Our relationship with money often has deep roots in childhood experiences. Dr. Jan Anderson offers a candid look at how her father's approach to finances shaped her own attitudes, and how mindfulness meditation unveiled these unconscious patterns. Journey through her personal and professional insights on financial resilience, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles. This introspective piece provides valuable perspectives on understanding and transforming our complex relationships with money.
When Mother’s Day Hurts
Mother's Day can be a heart-wrenching time for mothers estranged from their adult children. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into this 'silent epidemic,' offering profound insights on why traditional reconciliation methods often backfire and how to navigate this painful journey. Learn counterintuitive yet effective strategies for coping, from backing off to honoring other mothers, and discover how to maintain hope while working towards possible reconnection. This compassionate guide provides a lifeline for those grappling with the complex emotions of parent-child estrangement.
Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond
In a world of polarizing viewpoints, both/and thinking offers a powerful alternative. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into this transformative cognitive approach, sharing insights from personal experiences and mentors. Discover how expanding your 'container' to hold conflicting ideas can lead to better decision-making, improved relationships, and enhanced resilience in times of crisis. Whether you're navigating personal conflicts or global uncertainties, this guide provides practical strategies to cultivate a more nuanced and adaptable mindset.
It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup
Relationship breakdowns often begin with a secret decision. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into the psychology behind turning away from a partner and the impact of unshared choices. Discover why transparency isn't always the answer and learn effective strategies for maintaining connection. This insightful guide offers a fresh perspective on relationship dynamics, exploring how to navigate difficult conversations, avoid common pitfalls, and cultivate the emotional intelligence needed for lasting partnerships.
The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself
Struggling with personal dilemmas? Dr. Jan Anderson reveals surprising insights on how we can change faster and more easily than previously thought. Discover the three key ingredients that make profound personal transformation possible in months, not years. This guide challenges traditional views on personality traits, offering hope and practical strategies for those seeking meaningful change in their lives, relationships, and personal habits.
THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go?
Contemplating divorce? You're not alone in this challenging crossroads. Dr. Jan Anderson, drawing from professional expertise and personal experience, offers compassionate guidance on assessing your relationship, understanding the impact on children, and charting a path forward - whether that means revitalizing your marriage or navigating a 'good divorce.' Learn how to find clarity and rebuild happiness, no matter which road you choose.
Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer
In our fast-paced world, the ability to genuinely connect with others is more valuable than ever. Dr. Jan Anderson draws from her experience counseling caregivers to offer three powerful, yet simple techniques for forging instant connections and maintaining a compassionate presence. Discover how making eye contact, receiving before giving, and cultivating self-awareness can transform your interactions and provide meaningful support to those around you.
Estranged From Your Adult Child: The Last Thing You Ever Expected
Estrangement from an adult child can be a heart-wrenching experience for parents. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into this increasingly common phenomenon, exploring its causes, emotional impact, and the unique challenges it presents. Discover expert insights on navigating this difficult terrain, from managing complex emotions to understanding societal shifts in family dynamics. Learn how to approach healing and reconciliation while taking care of your own emotional well-being in this compassionate guide for estranged parents.
Cultivate Your "Inner Gourmet" with Mindful Eating
Discover the power of mindful eating with Dr. Jan Anderson. This approach offers a refreshing alternative to restrictive diets, especially for those managing conditions like diabetes. Learn how cultivating your 'inner gourmet' can lead to greater food enjoyment, better portion control, and improved overall health. Dr. Anderson shares insights on how to transform your eating habits by tuning into your body's signals and savoring each bite, making healthy eating a pleasurable experience rather than a chore.
Can't Meditate? Try Mindfulness in Motion
Can't sit still to meditate? Dr. Jan Anderson introduces 'mindfulness in motion' as a powerful alternative. Through her personal journey with yoga, she demonstrates how rhythmic movement and regulated breathing can serve as a gateway to meditation, offering stress relief and energy boost. Learn how this accessible approach to mindfulness can transform your daily life, improve your relationships, and pave the way to traditional meditation practices - all in just 10-20 minutes a day.
Three Hacks to Handle the Difficult Person in Your Life
Struggling with a difficult person in your life? Dr. Jan Anderson offers three game-changing 'life hacks' to transform your approach. Discover how to adjust your perspective, match positive aspects of challenging behavior, and redefine your goals in relationships. These expert techniques will help you navigate complex interpersonal dynamics, boost your emotional intelligence, and find new ways to connect - all while staying true to yourself. Learn to turn frustrating interactions into opportunities for personal growth and improved relationships.
The Easiest Way to Make a Tough Decision
Facing a tough decision? Dr. Jan Anderson delves into the complexities of life's most challenging dilemmas. This insightful guide explores the concept of the 'Divided Self' and how it impacts our choices. Learn why traditional problem-solving methods fall short for life's biggest decisions, and discover a fresh approach to achieving balance between conflicting aspects of your personality. Dr. Anderson offers a path to greater self-awareness, freedom of choice, and ultimately, more fulfilling life decisions.
How to Make Peace with Your Parents – And Just About Anybody Else
Struggling with a difficult parental relationship? Dr. Jan Anderson offers a compassionate, science-backed approach to emotional healing. Drawing from personal experience and professional expertise, she guides you through the journey of recovery - from accepting reality to setting healthy boundaries. Discover how to find peace and enjoy life, even when reconciliation isn't possible. This insightful guide challenges common misconceptions about forgiveness and provides practical steps towards genuine emotional freedom.
How Resilience Protects Your Heart — Inside and Out
What's the connection between a broken heart and heart disease? Dr. Jan Anderson delves into the fascinating world of emotional resilience and its impact on cardiovascular health. Drawing from personal experience and extensive research, she reveals how overcoming emotional challenges can literally save your heart. Learn about the surprising risk factors for heart disease and discover evidence-based strategies to build resilience, manage stress, and protect your heart - both inside and out. This insightful piece offers a unique perspective on holistic heart health that goes beyond diet and exercise.
How Treating Your Spouse Like a Stranger Can Improve Your Relationship
Dr. Jan Anderson offers surprising strategies to revitalize your marriage: treat your spouse like a stranger, spend time apart, and embrace frank discussions. These counterintuitive approaches can lead to better self-regulation, increased respect, and deeper intimacy, breathing new life into your relationship.
How to Get Smarter and Happier by This Time Next Year
Dr. Jan Anderson reveals why being smart doesn't always lead to happiness. Learn how to develop emotional and relationship intelligence, skills often overlooked in traditional education. Discover how early adaptations can limit your potential, and explore ways to unlock your primitive brain's power for greater self-awareness and improved relationships. Transform your approach to life's challenges and find a path to lasting happiness.
Holiday Stress? Write It Off.
Dr. Jan Anderson offers a refreshing take on holiday stress management through journaling. Learn two powerful techniques: the 'Morning Core Dump' to process negative emotions, and the 'Three Good Things' gratitude practice. Discover how these simple yet effective methods can help you navigate the holiday season with more balance, resilience, and joy.
Lonely? You're Not Alone
Loneliness isn't just an emotional issue—it's a serious health risk. Dr. Jan Anderson reveals surprising facts about loneliness and its impacts on heart disease and Alzheimer's. Learn how to recognize chronic disconnectedness and discover practical steps to increase your "social capital," from brief encounters to meaningful conversations that can transform your wellbeing.
Relationship Repair: How to Rewind Love
Can love be rewound? Dr. Jan Anderson challenges conventional wisdom in relationship therapy, offering hope for couples facing disconnection. Discover how breaking traditional counseling rules can lead to breakthroughs, even when only one partner participates. Learn innovative strategies for safe communication and emotional reconnection that can transform struggling relationships into thriving partnerships.