Estrangement Coaching
Family estrangement is a deeply painful and isolating experience that can arise from various sources—lifestyle or personality differences, conflicts with a son-in-law or daughter-in-law, or parental alienation after divorce. Whether you’re facing a low-contact or no-contact situation, I offer specialized support for parents, adult children, and other family members navigating this difficult terrain.
Estrangement impacts parents, adult children, siblings, and extended family members. It is not a one-size-fits-all experience—it’s a complex, emotionally charged issue that can be temporary or long-term, with varying levels of contact and communication. Estrangement can leave everyone involved feeling misunderstood, rejected, and overwhelmed.
In some cases, it’s caused by acute conflicts, while in others, it’s the result of long-standing patterns of behavior. Despite these challenges, there is hope for healing and reconciliation. With a compassionate, tailored approach, I guide both parents and their children through the estrangement journey, helping each person build greater self-awareness, empathy, and communication skills.
How Estrangement Coaching Can Help
Estrangement coaching offers a structured yet empathetic approach to navigating the complexities of estrangement. My coaching is designed to provide a safe and supportive space for individuals and families to explore what led to the estrangement, process their feelings, and create actionable strategies for healing—whether that means reconciling with loved ones or finding peace and acceptance in moving forward. My goal is to be a thinking partner and guide, helping clients understand the root causes of their estrangement and facilitating a path toward resolution and personal growth.
Explore What Happened: We’ll dig into the history and context of your estrangement, identifying contributing factors and patterns that have shaped your family dynamic.
Manage Intense Emotions: Constructively address feelings of guilt, anger, shame, and sadness, allowing you to move forward without being overwhelmed by emotional turmoil.
Develop a Reconciliation Strategy: If reconciliation is your goal, we’ll create a thoughtful, step-by-step plan for re-establishing contact and rebuilding trust, focusing on what you can control and letting go of what you cannot.
Improve Communication: Learn how to communicate more effectively, especially emotionally charged conversations. Address creating boundaries, responding to accusations, and articulating your needs with empathy and respect.
Navigate High-Conflict Situations: For those dealing with parental alienation or high-conflict family dynamics, we’ll develop strategies to manage these interactions without escalating tensions.
Find Personal Acceptance and Healing: Even if reconciliation is not possible or desired, estrangement coaching can help you find a sense of closure, acceptance, and personal well-being.
What We’ll Work On Together
Whether you’re a parent longing to reconnect with your child or an adult child seeking to heal from painful family experiences, estrangement coaching can help you:
“With Dr. Jan’s guidance, I plan to visit my daughter as she prepares to welcome her first child. Her approach helped me respond to one of my daughter's messages, which opened the door to our first conversation in nearly a year and eventually led to our reconciliation. Dr. Jan’s support made a profound difference, and I’m grateful for her help.” —Retired Executive
“I am fortunate to have a positive outcome after being estranged from my son and daughter-in-law for over a year. I don’t think I could have done this without Dr. Jan’s help. Now she is giving me the support I need to keep the connection going strong.” — Physician
Are You Ready to Take the First Step Toward Healing and Reconnection?
Are You Ready to Take the First Step Toward Healing and Reconnection?
Are You Ready to Take the First Step Toward Healing and Reconnection? Are You Ready to Take the First Step Toward Healing and Reconnection?
With estrangement coaching, you don’t have to face this journey alone. Together, we’ll work to understand what happened, process your feelings, and find a way forward that prioritizes your well-being, strengthens your communication, and—when possible—opens the door to reconciliation and renewed family connections.
If you’re ready to explore what led to the estrangement and begin a journey toward healing—whether that means reconciling with your loved one or finding acceptance—schedule a complimentary 15-minute discovery session today. Let’s talk about your unique situation, identify your goals, and discuss how estrangement coaching can help you find clarity and relief.