If you’re so smart, why aren’t you happy?
If you’re so smart, why aren’t you happy?
You’ve got plenty of smarts and drive. It’s made you very successful. But you’re getting really lame results in other areas of your life.
Don’t let your strengths hold you back.
Some challenges require a different type of intelligence. (It’s not related to your I.Q. score.)
- How do I let myself be happier — without losing my drive to do better?
- How do I connect better with other people — without feeling fake or needy?
- How do I go for what I want — without feeling guilty or selfish?
- How do I influence others — without manipulating or bulldozing?
- How do I learn to relax — without losing my edge?
- How do I set better boundaries and say no — without coming off as selfish or mean?
Dr. Jan Anderson, PsyD, LPPC
Time to pivot.
What got you here won’t get you there.
How do you know you need counseling with a coaching edge?
Assessment #1: You wake up one day and say I can’t do this anymore. I can’t live like this.
- I’ve tried so hard. Why isn’t this working?
- I’ve done everything I know to do. What am I missing?
- I don’t understand why this keeps happening.
Assessment #2: In many ways, life is usually going very well for you, but some important area of life isn’t working.
- Person A, B, or C (or all of the above) is driving me crazy with their… (fill in the blank)
- I’m driving myself crazy with… (fill in the blank)
Counseling with a Coaching Edge is not ordinary counseling.
It’s not cookie cutter coaching.
It’s not just about getting rid of something you don’t want — depression, bad relationships, anxiety, or addiction.
It’s also about getting something you do want — better relationships, more peace of mind, more happiness, and meaning in life.
Counseling with a coaching edge is based on the scientific study of how people like you and me deal adaptively and intelligently with adversity, difficulties, obstacles, setbacks, and the other inevitable and unavoidable Bad Ass Dilemmas (BADs) of life.
- My Relationship with Me: I’m tired of being my own worst enemy. How can I better regulate my thinking, my emotions, and my behavior? How can I learn to give a crap about myself?
- My Relationship with Everybody Else: How can I connect in meaningful ways with the people who matter to me? How can I deal with difficult people without becoming part of the problem?
What Do You Want to Be Different?
How I can help you get a grip on your personal and professional happiness
Results won’t take as long or be as much work as you think.
Here’s how I help high achievers take the stress out of habit change.
We jumpstart the process with:
- Someone who gets you: Research shows that success is linked more to the strength of the counselor-client relationship more than theoretical orientation and techniques.
- Where you are now: You don’t have to start with your childhood.
- No judgment: You’re not stupid, crazy, or lazy. You did it because it worked.
- Where you feel the most energy: Your motivation will help you get traction and build momentum.
- Something powerful: Because you’ll need it.
- Something small: So you don’t freak yourself out — and everybody else, too.
- Something surprising: Because your brain doesn’t just crave certainty. Your brain also needs novelty.
What’s the number one predictor of whether therapy will work for you?
Start with someone who gets you.
The research results are very clear: The strength of the counselor-client relationship is more important than the type of therapy or techniques used.
Get a Grip on Your Personal and Professional Happiness Today
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