Dr. Jan’s LifeWise Words of Wisdom

Love and Politics: How Successful Couples Manage Their Differences

Political differences can strain even the strongest relationships. This article offers practical insights from a marriage therapist on how to navigate these challenges. Learn to pause, pay attention to your reactions, and regulate your emotions. Discover how mindfulness and self-awareness can help you maintain a loving relationship despite opposing political views.

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Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself.

Discover how three simple questions at the end of each therapy session can dramatically improve your counseling experience. This article delves into the concept of self-compassion, debunking common misconceptions and offering practical exercises. Learn how cultivating self-compassion can lead to better relationships, improved self-esteem, and a more fulfilling life.

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Estranged From Your Adult Child? Try These New Evidence-Based Strategies

Family estrangement, particularly ghosting parents, is more common than you might think. This article delves into the latest research on adult child estrangement, offering evidence-based strategies for reconciliation. Learn how to navigate the complex emotions of being cut off and discover practical steps towards rebuilding relationships with estranged adult children.

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Do This to Save Your Marriage: How to Stay Calm and Speak Up.

Explore how staying calm and speaking up non-defensively can transform your marriage. This real-life case study illustrates the power of emotional regulation in resolving conflicts. Learn practical techniques to manage your emotions, communicate effectively, and create a stronger, more resilient relationship with your spouse.

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Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  

Navigating emotional triggers in relationships can feel like walking through a minefield. Dr. Jan Anderson offers a therapist's perspective on staying calm when tensions run high. Learn counterintuitive yet effective strategies to manage your emotions, from embracing feelings to practicing self-compassion. Discover how these techniques can transform difficult conversations and strengthen your relationships, even in the most challenging times.

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The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.

We crave connection, yet fear vulnerability - it's the ultimate relationship paradox. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into this common dilemma, offering professional insights on why we struggle and how to overcome it. Discover the 'universal law of relationships' and learn practical strategies to balance emotional openness with personal strength. Whether you're dealing with family estrangement or seeking deeper connections, this guide provides a fresh perspective on building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

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CONVERSATIONAL INTELLIGENCE: When To Break the Rules to Make Better Connections

Are your "I" statements falling flat? Dr. Jan Anderson challenges traditional communication rules, revealing why perfectly crafted phrases can sometimes backfire. Uncover the delicate balance between directness and emotional availability that leads to genuine connections. Learn how embracing vulnerability and authenticity in your interactions can transform your personal and professional relationships.

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How to Deal With a Difficult Person — Without Becoming Part of the Problem

Dealing with difficult people can feel like an endless cycle of frustration. This article delves into the psychology behind enabling behaviors and offers practical advice on breaking free. Learn how to maintain your sanity while navigating challenging relationships, set healthy boundaries, and foster personal growth - even when facing seemingly immovable obstacles.

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Change a Word, Change Your Brain

Your internal dialogue shapes your reality more than you might think. This article delves into cutting-edge research on the impact of self-talk on brain function and behavior. From quick fixes like using your first name to address yourself, to deeper therapeutic approaches, discover how small changes in your inner narrative can lead to significant improvements in stress management and personal effectiveness.

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THE OTHER TALK: How to Start Your Least Favorite Conversation

Talking about end-of-life wishes isn't easy, but it's crucial. This article explores why 'The Other Talk' matters and how to approach it with sensitivity. From breaking the ice to navigating complex decisions, learn how to have meaningful conversations about your future care. Discover tools and strategies to ensure your end-of-life wishes are understood and respected.

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Surprising Foods That Help Keep Weight Off As You Age

Conventional wisdom about weight loss may be outdated. Harvard's long-term study reveals surprising foods that help maintain weight as you age. Discover why yogurt, nuts, and vegetables are beneficial, while potato chips and sugary drinks contribute to weight gain. Learn how diet quality impacts long-term weight control more than calorie counting alone.

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