"What I’ve Learned About Parent and Adult-Child Estrangement"

Parent and adult-child estrangement is becoming increasingly common, with adult children often framing it as "no contact." While historically linked to severe abuse or manipulation, today's estrangements may stem from diverse issues, including political differences, lifestyle choices, or third-party influences like in-laws.

In this blog, I explore key insights and practical strategies for parents navigating this painful experience:

• Mindset Updates: Learn how to accept the shifted balance of power, understand your adult child’s limitations, and rethink unhelpful strategies.

• Building Resilience: Discover tools for distress tolerance and emotional regulation to handle the inner turmoil of estrangement.

• Strategic Thinking: Approach reconciliation with patience, perspective-taking, and negotiation skills to improve the odds of reconnecting.

Estrangement is a "Freakin' Growth Opportunity" (FGO) that challenges us to evolve. By combining emotional resilience with strategic actions, parents can reclaim their sanity and increase their chances of healing relationships while maintaining hope.

Read the full blog to learn how to transform pain into personal growth and reconnection with your adult child.

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